Being a woman on eroticism art history university pressthe internet (or anywhere) is a frustrating experience.
Computer scientist and professor at the University of Maryland, Jen Golbeck, like many others on the internet, talks about her life experiences on Twitter. This includes the nuances of being a highly experienced computer wiz in a world where the software doesn't always meet your needs:
Sometimes I just want to punch java in the face.
— Jen Golbeck (@jengolbeck) October 4, 2016
Upon seeing this tweet, a man, Ludovic Reenaers, tweeted back at Golbeck, assuming she was an inexperienced Java user. He completely neglected to glance at her Twitter bio and suggested she learn the programming language, ending his message with an unwelcome, flirty winking face.
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— Ludovic Reenaers (@LReenaers) October 4, 2016
Golbeck corrected Reenaers on his assumption and called out the mistake in another tweet, pointing to a deeper problem with sexism women in tech face today: how men automatically assume their inexperience or incompetence, sexually harass them and give them a general sense of a patronizing "pat on the head" as you would a child for a job well done.
These three experiences all come together in what the internet calls "mansplaining."
@LReenaers I'm a computer science professor. I've taught a dozen programming classes that use java. I know it, thanks.
— Jen Golbeck (@jengolbeck) October 4, 2016
Guys. I can't tell you how frustrating shit like this is. Especially having to deal with comments like this over and over and over… pic.twitter.com/LmYN1vzdUD
— Jen Golbeck (@jengolbeck) October 4, 2016
Golbeck told Mashablein an email that, while Reenaers' comments were frustrating, a majority of the comments she received from her original tweet were supportive and, "have come equally from men and women. That has been great."
She added that a lot (estimating around the hundreds) of the comments she has received from men in particular about the "mansplainer" expressed similar, dismissive sentiments, often telling her that the man's comments "have nothing to do with sexism." She wrote in her email:
"I can understand that if you never see what it's like to be a women in tech, you may not realize how much we get patronized and assumed incompetent by default. I tried to explain that to a few people, and a couple guys really got it and acknowledged that women probably got a lot more of these comments than male coders would. Some refused to acknowledge there's a sexist component, even though I point out they never get emoji winked at when people criticize their coding skills. The best threads you'll find in there are men mansplaining that mansplaining doesn't exist."
Plenty of commenters, both male and female, stepped up to support Golbeck.
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Original image has been replaced. Credit: Mashable Golbeck also noted that her initial "troll" was not the only disappointing exchange she had.
"There are a few guys who told me if I used nicer language or had a better attitude there wouldn't be a problem," she said. "The 'you should just smile more!' replies from other people are pretty great, though."
One, of many, examples:
@FleetStGir1 I also got a followup from @optimisticcoder that said maybe I should just say nicer things! https://t.co/GH2jwiu6hg
— Jen Golbeck (@jengolbeck) October 4, 2016
Ironically, and yet very non-ironically, one of Golbeck's research areas is online harassment, including studying cases like Gamer Gate, the Ku Klux Klan and different hate groups. "I feel like it could have been worse," she said, adding, "that said, the whole experience has been draining."
Despite having to field an onslaught of frustrating comments, Golbeck at least enjoyed connecting with a community of her Java-punching peers.
"I'd say there's a good 40 percent of comments with people just ranting about Java. So I kind of liked that I pulled in people who are as offended by the fact that the guy defended java as they are about the patronizing tone," Golbeck said.
The darkest of times can bring us together as well.
Mashablehas reached out to Reenaers and will update with any comments.